Why would a 33 year old man behave like this? (long story) im really hurting can you help me out with advice?

Wow he sounds just like my ex boyfriend..Was so caring and loving and all of sudden became the disappearing pive aggressive man! Notice I said "ex" boyfriend. These type of guys aren't worth it. It sounds like he is playing mind games with you. The fact that he compared you with his ex is a big red flag. A guy shouldn't have panic attacks when he thinks about the person he loves. Forget him..and find someone who will give you the love and respect you deserve.